Dating Strategy

How it all began, a few weeks ago

You are just chilling with your friend Jeff, watching tv and speaking about all and nothing, not really paying attention. Jeff is just yet again rambling about something when suddenly he catches your attention.

Jeff: " ... three fucking kids!!! and I was like, you know, I'm hella out of here. Just paid my part and left right then"

You: "Oh yeah uh, how did you meet again?"

Jeff: "You know it's always that damn dating app, it's like half the women there are single mothers and the other half just look horrible or lie about not being single moms".

You: "Oh that's really tough. Mind giving me that app's name, just by curiosity?"

Jeff: "Oh you're willing to start dating again? Good for you! But be warned, I do exaggerate a bit but there really are plenty women who come with kids and for the others the competition is really tough. Even 25 years old often have kids ... I mean those that remain on the app. I tell you man, the prettiest women I found either did not answer back or had children.

You: "So you're telling me the most attractive women I'll find on the app probably have children living with them?"

Jeffrey with a sad frown: "Yeah"

You, trying really hard to look conflicted about it: "I guess I can always give it a try".

Setting up your first profile

You spend a few days looking all the advises for how to set up the perfect profile. As it turns out you do have enough pics to make a really good profile and so when you put it on the app it ... failed successfully. Or rather it was actually that good that you get the childless women to also answer and end up in a couple of dates with women who not only pretended not to have children, they actually had none. It was time to turn down a bit your profile.

Setting up your second profile

After removing some of the best pics you also added a little paragraph about your income. You knew it kinda looked desperate as to attract someone just by your stability ... but figured that would play for you with a struggling single mother. Feeling daring you even added up a part saying you were looking to settle down and that you longed for a family when you could "spend time" with the kids.

That second profile ended up failing successfully: way fewer matches but almost all by women who did have children. You matched, you discussed and went as far as meeting a few times with three women. And now you are in a bit of a pickle: the one you were meeting first, Ivy, finally wants to invite you at her house and meet her daughter Penelope while Hannah (the one you started seeing last) is pressing you to visit her house fast.