Life Hacks/Dante's sexuality

This is the new format for showing what the individual character's reaction will be to sexual advances with them depending on their sexual history, sexual knowledge, sexual quirks, and their relationship with you. It contains some of the information from the old system, and also goes into detail about how they might react to individual sex acts giving various ways you might approach them. Please note that there will always be a chance they might reject you regardless of relationship score depending on your approach and their mood at the time due to other factors. Also note that the scores say a "recommended" relationship score before pursuing a sex act. It is possible to get them to agree with a lower score if you use the best approach (especially if you have high social skills.)

Sexual history

Dante's mother has made it clear to him he is free to explore his own genitals at any time in the privacy of his bedroom or the bathroom, but also knows from his mother that most people freak out when children do that sort of thing. He agrees with her that there is nothing wrong with him touching himself, but has developed a very paranoid view of the world outside his house so far as what other people might think if they find out. He has been placed under the impression that everyone other than his mother is like she says his grandparents were on this subject.

Dante has come to realize there are a lot of things his mom does different from other parents, but has accepted that her methods are actually better than the rest of the world and based on what she has learned from the small number of people who know what they are talking about. He feels ashamed of sexual acts while interacting with people outside his family because he is paranoid about how they will react and that his mom might get in trouble and/or he will lose friends, but does not think there is actually a problem.

Once, while he was taking a bath with his sister and asked his mom about the slit between his sister's legs where a penis should be, he was invited to touch and explore his sister's privates and did so as she explained to him how a girl's privates were different. He figures his mom would not be averse to him repeating this exploration of her body on his own, but has not done so for fear that too much interaction with his sister and the things she likes will increase the amount of effeminate traits he has that he is so embarrassed about.

Sexual Knowledge

While Dante's mother has never hidden anything in regards to sex from him, she has only told him what he has asked and he has not even thought to ask about sex and reproduction. Due to his malnutrition, he has not developed the level of curiosity and inquisitive skills to draw out that line of thought.

• Knows what female genitals look like?: Yes
• Knows how babies are made?: Knows about pregnancy, hasn't questioned how the baby gets there in the first place.
• Knows what sex is?: No
• Knows about semen?: No

Dante seems to have some awareness that women have some degree of choice in when they get pregnant, but hasn't questioned the mechanism behind how this happens and has never even thought a man might be involved in the process at some point.

General recommended approaches

Dante will have a dramatically different reaction to Xander Vs. Lexi, being incredibly open with Xander in general where as he will be a lot more closed off with Lexi.

Xander: As soon as Dante figures out Xander does not have a problem with him showing off and touching genitals, he will open up a great deal and become very attached to Xander. So long as it is something that stays between the two of them, Dante will easily agree to almost any sex act, especially if it is something he thinks Xander wants to do and will help him to gain his approval. He will hesitate slightly on oral, anal, and being ejaculated on at first but can be easily convinced with Xander's assurance. Everything else he will eagerly engage in right from the start. The thing he would have the most trouble with would be kissing, and if he accepts being kissed by Xander it will be very emasculating to him as there is no doubt Xander is the more dominant in the pair.

Lexi: Dante will see Lexi as just another girl in his life, like his Aunt, and be rather stand-offish. He will be slightly won over though that she is an outsider to the family that seems to accept their lifestyle. He will agree to most sex acts Lexi wants to do with him, but he will not be especially enthusiastic.

Reaction to your sexual contact with his aunt and sister

Dante, as much as he was worried about interacting with his sister too much, it was not because he felt touching her pussy was a bad thing. Rather, it was because he thought interacting with her period was making him girly. With Xander present as the dominating force in his life, he will feel better about touching Ellie's pussy himself (and be quite curious about it in fact,) but more to the point he will really want to share it with Xander and will readily encourage him to take advantage of their mother's rules in order to do whatever he wants with Ellie's pussy. He does not know about PIV sex, and he would be a bit surprised at the idea, but he will think it's cool if he sees you having sex with Ellie. All the same would go for his aunt Siobhan, but he would not feel he could take credit for it. He will be happy to see you doing sexual things with his aunt, but he will prefer and actively encourage you to do things with Ellie so that he might be able to theoretically soak up some of your approval for him facilitating this.

Note: Having Dante have sex with Ellie is a good part of trying to butch him up, where as refusing him that and playing with his genitals in the same kinds of ways you do Ellie's will go a good way toward sissifying him. If you do something with Ellie or Siobhan, he will likely try to imitate what you do with Ellie as his soul target unless you say something to stop him. Preventing him from having sex with the girls and making it that only you get that privilege will be emasculating to him.

His reaction to specific sex acts (butching or sissifying)

If you are accepted by his mother, Dante will see you as a role model. If his mother accepts you and he sees you as a role model, he will agree to all sex acts period. The only thing that is up in the air with Dante is whether he will become more butch (you manage to bolster his masculinity) or more of a sissy (you emmasculate him and make him your bitch.)

If the usual recommendation system was used, every single one would say "accepted by his mother." Therefore, that system would be useless. Instead, his options will have details on whether this act will be butching, sissifying, neutral (will not move him one way or the other unless verbal comments are added) or variable (no default category, can fall into any of the 3 depending on how it is approached.)

Benign sex acts

Acts such as hand-holding, hugging, and having him sit in your lap. Things that are more or less non-sexual, but can be construed in a sexual way to some extent.

Where as a normal boy would be secure enough in his gender identity to do these things with you freely, Dante is so insecure that he will actually shy away from letting you do these things with him viewing such gentle signs of affection as girly. He will not refuse them if you insist even a little though, and getting him comfortable with these sorts of acts will push him down his sissy route.

Note: If you want to do these things on the butch route, you will need to do some rough/boyish physical activity with him first and then give him a rough hug or something of that nature afterward. After that, all these activities can be done as normal without threatening his push to become more masculine.

Dismissable sex acts

Acts that can just as easily be seen as sexual as they can non-sexual or unintentional. Examples include holding his ass, being shirtless around one another, or oggling his crotch.

Oddly, these somewhat more sexualized interactions will not be emasculating to him. Not unless you use talk to refer to him in girly terms anyway. At any rate, due to how he is raised, he will take zero issue with any of it regardless of your relationship levels (unless you have cultivated an enemy score with him and he has somehow become dominant over you. That, or his mom objects to you.)

Mild sex acts

Acts that would not be regarded as sex but cannot be seen as anything but sexual, such as kissing, groping, dry-humping, or revealing privates.

• Kissing: Massively effeminizing

There is just about no way to kiss Dante in a butch way. He has completely associated kissing as something that happens between a boy and a girl, and there will be no doubt you are the dominant player here. If you kiss him as Xander, he will fly way off into sissy territory. If you kiss him as Lexi, he may be able to accept that better, but Lexi will still be dominant and that will confuse his sense of identity since the man is supposed to be in charge. He will still move in the sissy direction, but it is possible to bring him out of it if it was Lexi with a little re-framing of how he should think about the interaction.

• Grope crotch over cloths: Neutral

The first few times, this will make Dante squirm in embarrassment a little. After that, he just wonder why you don't reach into his pants.

• Show privates to each other for no reason other than to just look: Variable

Dante will not have much of a problem with this. He will not have really seen a boy's genitals before and he will figure you do not get much of a chance to do this sort of thing yourself since you are raised "normal." This could easily go in a butching direction if you pull a girl into this activity, especially if it is Ellie and you let Dante be the one to call the shots with her.

If you do this as Lexi, he has seen female genitals before but he will feel safer exploring yours than those of members of his family since you seem to be less girly than them.

• Use toilet with other present in bathroom: Neutral

Dante actually regards this sort of thing as normal in his family.

• Reference or discuss moderate or hard-core sex with each other: Variable

Dante will have never really considered these sorts of sex acts. He will not know what to make of it, but if you seem enthusiastic about it he will be fairly willing to try.

This interaction can butch him up if you talk about it in reference to doing it with girls, or effeminize him if it is in reference to you using him like a girl. It can also be neutral if you talk about performing sex acts on him without the "like a girl" references, or even butch him up if you talk about it with the old Greek and Roman outlook that boys being exposed to a man's semen passes on the masculine essence.

• Crotch to crotch clothed dry-humping: Neutral

This is something Dante will not have a problem with, but once again he will wonder why you are doing it with cloths on and not just taking off your cloths to rub your bare genital together.

• Be casually naked with one another: Slightly butching

Since the lifestyle he has hoisted on him by his mother sees nudity as no big deal, he will have no issue with this. As for his reaction, having a naked male to look at for once will get his attention and appreciation. Seeing your penis flop around just like his will make him see you as even more of a role-model and he will start to model himself after you more. This will cause him to become more masculine.

Note: You can easily neutralize or counter-act this butching effect by commenting on his penis using emasculating or effeminizing phrases such as saying it looks "cute" or "little"

Moderate sex acts

Sex acts that most would consider sex, but would not get the "hard-core" label if filmed and put on a porn site.

• Touch each other's bare genitals with hand Variable

If you are more domaneering in this, it will be slightly effeminizing. If you share the activity a bit more it can be neutral. If you do it as Lexi and give him more freedom to explore you it can be butching.

If you involve another girl in this, Roni will be dominant over him and that will be efeminizing. Siobhan will just lay there and let you or him do whatever you want with her so long as you are involved, and this can just as easily be neutral or butching depending on how you lead it, and Dante will naturally try to call the shots if Ellie is involved. This will be butching, but it can be made neutral if you dominate and don't give him the chance to instruct Ellie into anything.

• Touch your bare genitals together: Variable

If it is just you and him, this can easily be neutral or effeminizing depending on how dominant you are. If there is a girl involved, you doing it with her in front of him will be efeminizing if you forbid him of the chance to do it himself, and butching if he is allowed to do it with her. If it is Roni, Roni might be the one to take charge in witch case it can be variable in any direction depending on what words are said in the situation. It will massively butching though if you encourage him to take charge over her.

• Masturbate partner to orgasm Variable.

Once again, it can be effeminizing or neutral with you, and mostly butching with girls involved unless you make him just watch and not participate in witch case it will be efeminizing.

• Ejaculate on his body, below neck

• Ejaculate on his head, hair, or face:

• Perform oral sex on him:

• Have him perform oral sex on you:

• Have him ejaculate on you

• Have him ejaculate on you as Lexi without him being aware semen makes babies

• Have him ejaculate on you as Lexi while he is aware semen makes babies

Hard-core sex acts

Sex acts that involve semen and/or the penis going into a vagina or anus.

• Have anal sex with him:

• He has anal sex with you:

• PIV sex with Lexi while ignorant to its role in impregnation:

• Vaginal sex with Lexi with a condom

• PIV sex with Lexi while aware that it makes babies:

• Get him to knowingly impregnate you as Lexi:

Fetish sex acts

Peculiarities to his sexuality, including desires that do not have strictly to do with reproductive sex as well as what his response would be to physical or psychological force being used to perform a sex act with him. (Note: Relationship recommendations are not given at the beginning as these are things that simply manifest at the appropriate level of sex act. Feeding the fetish is more of a good approach than anything.)

• Results of physical force in sex acts:

• Results of psychological force in sex acts: (Using partner's submissiveness to demand sex even when they don't want it)