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Unless the individual is a sexual deviant who likes sex with people they don't know, these numbers are the minimum necessary for the individual in question to give 100% consent to a particular sex act or gesture of affection. As noted before, sex and romance are not associated in a child's mind. The numbers given here are the applicable value, not the romance value.

This guide lists the lowest un-modified score in the primary relationship stat necessary to gain your partner's consent, but this is only in cases where the person you are performing this sex act with was not even thinking about doing this sex act before you brought it up. It is an entirely different story if they are the ones who initiate a sex act. Anyone can initiate a sex act with you even if your relationship score with them in the appropriate area is 0. Also, even if you have 100% scores in your relationship with a person in the appropriate area, there are still conditions under witch you can have sex with them and they will consider it rape. These scores assume that you are talking them into sex in a friendly and calm way while making a good connection with them.

NOTE: This only applies to private sex between only the two of you with the partner you are performing these sex acts on. Observed sex acts of the mild level and higher is modified by their preference or distaste for exhibitionism. There is also a different score for permitting sex acts done to another that the person you have the score with feels responsible for. This is known as a surrogate consent score, witch can vary wildly as well and operates on trust normally for benign and dismissable acts, and with a modifier that is usually positive for the higher level acts, often taking hard-core and even moderate acts well above 100. (default is +20 per level above dismissable, so +20 for mild, +40 for moderate, +60 for hard-core, +80 for fetish, and +100 for rape. Yes, there is a surrogate sex score for rape, and conditions that will lower it below your score with them will cause them to consent to you raping a person in their charge.)

Benign sex acts

Activities that can easily be construed as non-sexual and dismissed both by the person the act is being performed on and also by any on-lookers. It only counts as a sex act because the person performing it gets aroused by it.

Note: Platonic or familial love scores can be substituted for romantic love scores in this category.

Hold their hand:(5)
Play with their hair:(8)
Hugging (8)
Pick them up off the ground:(10)
Have them sit in your lap:(12)
Hold possessively(12)
Kiss cheeks or forehead:(15)
Kiss their hand(20)

Dismissable sex acts

Activities that can just as easily be taken as sexual or non-sexual. If the person this act is being performed on takes it as non-sexual, it is regarded as 10 points lower than what is listed and familial love can be substituted for romantic love. (familal love by itself does not act as a substitute if they interpret the act as sexual)

Be shirtless around them:(20)
See them in their pajamas:(20)
Oggle their clothed groin or breasts:(25)
Press into breasts while hugging:(25)
Convince a male to go shirtless around you:(25)
Fondle fully clothed ass while hugging or other such activity:(30)
Change cloths in presence of each other, not going naked (30)
Make sexually charged or sexually related banter with each other(30)
Wear only shirt and underwear around them(35)
Convince a pre-pubescent girl to go shirtless around you(35)
Fondle girl's ass under her skirt(40)
"Secretly" dry-hump leg, hip, or ass (either direction)(40)
Same gender change clothes while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual): (45/20)* (Note: Score differs depending on whether or not there is an existing romance score. 20 if romance score is zero, 45 if there is an existing romance score, 35 if there is a romance score but the act is regarded as non-sexual.)
Opposite gender change cloths while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual):(50)* (40 after it is regarded as non-sexual.)

Mild sex acts

Acts that most would consider inappropriate unless you are in a romantic relationship, but most would not actually consider to be "sex." No other score may be substituted for romantic love except via the submission method.

Kiss on lips (adult) (30) (Note: Can be regarded as non-sexual in some families and have platonic love points substitute if raised in this way.)
French Kiss (adult) (40)
Grope breasts and/or genitals (50 X body shame)
Change cloths, including underwear, in the same space as each other (50 X body shame)
Use toilet with other present in bathroom(55 X body shame)
Reference or discuss moderate or hard-core sex with each other(55)
Kiss on lips (child) (55, romance only)
Sexting (60)
Crotch to crotch clothed dry-humping(60)
Show privates to each other for no reason other than to just look(60 X body shame)
Be casually naked with one another(60 X body shame)
Suddenly kiss, grope, dry-hump, or take off cloths without prior consent or giving them a chance to object: (80 adult, 40 child)
French Kiss (child) (80, romance and trust both)

Moderate sex acts

Sex acts that most would consider sex, but would not get the "hard-core" label if filmed and put on a porn site.

Touch each other's bare genitals with hand(65 X body shame)
Masturbate partner to orgasm(67)
Touch partner beneath cloths or perform oral sex on them without prior consent or chance to object: (70)
Ejaculate on partner's body, not near an orifice (adult)(70)
Receive oral sex(70)
Ejaculate on child partner's male or female genitals, no prior concept of sex (70)
Rub bare genitals together(75)
Give oral sex(80)
Ejaculate on female partner's vulva (adult or 10-14 year old child who knows about sex)(80)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
Ejaculate on child partner's body (80)
Ejaculate on child partner's face (90)
Ejaculate on child partner who did not know an ejaculation was going to happen: (80 or 110, 110 if they interpret it as pee)
Suddenly begin masturbating partner under cloths without giving them a chance to object: (95 Adult, body shame for child)
Ejaculate on partner or have partner perform oral sex without prior consent or chance to object: (110)
Oral sex with child without giving them chance to consent: (140)

Hard-core sex acts

Sex acts that involve semen and/or the penis going into a vagina or anus

Girl on girl homosexual sex with child: (60 X body shame)
Vaginal sex with girl with no prior concept of sex or under 10 years of age: (70)
All homosexual sex(80)
Pushing semen from elsewhere into vagina with fingers(80)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
Vaginal sex with condom(85, 60 for sex conscious girl under 15, 80 if not sex conscious.)
Ejaculate into spread open vagina, no insertion(85)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy. -10 for children.
Bare-back vaginal sex, promising to pull out(90, 85 for children)
Bare-back vaginal sex, finishing inside (adult)(95)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
Fetish or taboo sex that does not align with partner's interests(100)* Also requires that the partner be submissive or persuadable with a reasoned argument or appeal.
Blitz: (110) Having sex with your partner without giving them the chance to consent or reject. (may differ depending on partner and situation, no modifier should ever be listed on character profiles)

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 Unless the individual is a sexual deviant who likes sex with people they don't know, these numbers are the minimum necessary for the individual in question to give 100% consent to a particular sex act or gesture of affection. As noted before, sex and romance are not associated in a child's mind. The numbers given here are the applicable value, not the romance value.
+This guide lists the lowest un-modified score in the primary relationship stat necessary to gain your partner's consent, but this is only in cases where the person you are performing this sex act with was not even thinking about doing this sex act before you brought it up. It is an entirely different story if they are the ones who initiate a sex act. Anyone can initiate a sex act with you even if your relationship score with them in the appropriate area is 0. Also, even if you have 100% scores in your relationship with a person in the appropriate area, there are still conditions under witch you can have sex with them and they will consider it rape. These scores assume that you are talking them into sex in a friendly and calm way while making a good connection with them.
+NOTE: This only applies to private sex between only the two of you with the partner you are performing these sex acts on. Observed sex acts of the mild level and higher is modified by their preference or distaste for exhibitionism. There is also a different score for permitting sex acts done to another that the person you have the score with feels responsible for. This is known as a surrogate consent score, witch can vary wildly as well and operates on trust normally for benign and dismissable acts, and with a modifier that is usually positive for the higher level acts, often taking hard-core and even moderate acts well above 100. (default is +20 per level above dismissable, so +20 for mild, +40 for moderate, +60 for hard-core, +80 for fetish, and +100 for rape. Yes, there is a surrogate sex score for rape, and conditions that will lower it below your score with them will cause them to consent to you raping a person in their charge.)
 ==Benign sex acts==
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 Acts that most would consider inappropriate unless you are in a romantic relationship, but most would not actually consider to be "sex." No other score may be substituted for romantic love except via the submission method.
-*'''Kiss on lips''' (30) (Note: Can be regarded as non-sexual in some families and have platonic love points substitute if raised in this way.)
+*'''Kiss on lips (adult)''' (30) (Note: Can be regarded as non-sexual in some families and have platonic love points substitute if raised in this way.)
-*'''French Kiss''' (40)
+*'''French Kiss (adult)''' (40)
-*'''Grope breasts and/or genitals''' (50)
+*'''Grope breasts and/or genitals''' (50 X body shame)
-*'''Change cloths, including underwear, in the same space as each other''' (50)
+*'''Change cloths, including underwear, in the same space as each other''' (50 X body shame)
-*'''Use toilet with other present in bathroom'''(55)
+*'''Use toilet with other present in bathroom'''(55 X body shame)
 *'''Reference or discuss moderate or hard-core sex with each other'''(55)
+*'''Kiss on lips (child)''' (55, romance only)
 *'''Sexting''' (60)
 *'''Crotch to crotch clothed dry-humping'''(60)
-*'''Show privates to each other for no reason other than to just look'''(60)
+*'''Show privates to each other for no reason other than to just look'''(60 X body shame)
-*'''Be casually naked with one another'''(60)
+*'''Be casually naked with one another'''(60 X body shame)
+*'''Suddenly kiss, grope, dry-hump, or take off cloths without prior consent or giving them a chance to object:''' (80 adult, 40 child)
+*'''French Kiss (child)''' (80, romance and trust both)
 ==Moderate sex acts==
 Sex acts that most would consider sex, but would not get the "hard-core" label if filmed and put on a porn site.
-*'''Touch each other's bare genitals with hand'''(65)
+*'''Touch each other's bare genitals with hand'''(65 X body shame)
 *'''Masturbate partner to orgasm'''(67)
-*'''Ejaculate on partner's body, not near an orifice'''(70)
+*'''Touch partner beneath cloths or perform oral sex on them without prior consent or chance to object:''' (70)
+*'''Ejaculate on partner's body, not near an orifice (adult)'''(70)
 *'''Receive oral sex'''(70)
+*'''Ejaculate on child partner's male or female genitals, no prior concept of sex''' (70)
 *'''Rub bare genitals together'''(75)
 *'''Give oral sex'''(80)
-*'''Ejaculate on female partner's vulva'''(80)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
+*'''Ejaculate on female partner's vulva (adult or 10-14 year old child who knows about sex)'''(80)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
+*'''Ejaculate on child partner's body''' (80)
+*'''Ejaculate on child partner's face''' (90)
+*'''Ejaculate on child partner who did not know an ejaculation was going to happen:''' (80 or 110, 110 if they interpret it as pee)
+*'''Suddenly begin masturbating partner under cloths without giving them a chance to object:''' (95 Adult, body shame for child)
+*'''Ejaculate on partner or have partner perform oral sex without prior consent or chance to object:''' (110)
+*'''Oral sex with child without giving them chance to consent:''' (140)
 ==Hard-core sex acts==
 Sex acts that involve semen and/or the penis going into a vagina or anus
+*'''Girl on girl homosexual sex with child:''' (60 X body shame)
+*'''Vaginal sex with girl with no prior concept of sex or under 10 years of age:''' (70)
 *'''All homosexual sex'''(80)
 *'''Pushing semen from elsewhere into vagina with fingers'''(80)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
-*'''Vaginal sex with condom'''(85)
+*'''Vaginal sex with condom'''(85, 60 for sex conscious girl under 15, 80 if not sex conscious.)
-*'''Ejaculate into spread open vagina, no insertion'''(85)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
+*'''Ejaculate into spread open vagina, no insertion'''(85)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy. -10 for children.
-*'''Bare-back vaginal sex, promising to pull out'''(90)
+*'''Bare-back vaginal sex, promising to pull out'''(90, 85 for children)
-*'''Bare-back vaginal sex, finishing inside'''(95)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
+*'''Bare-back vaginal sex, finishing inside (adult)'''(95)* Will not consent if worried about and avoiding pregnancy
 *'''Fetish or taboo sex that does not align with partner's interests'''(100)* Also requires that the partner be submissive or persuadable with a reasoned argument or appeal.
+*'''Blitz:''' (110) Having sex with your partner without giving them the chance to consent or reject. (may differ depending on partner and situation, no modifier should ever be listed on character profiles)
-==Taboo modifiers==
-These modifiers make someone less likely to engage in certain types of sex acts or sex acts with certain partners depending on whether or not they have internalized the taboo. The strength of a taboo can vary from person to person, so any taboo can add anywhere from +5 to +100 to the required score, however what will be listed here is the average score for most people in western society.
-All scores will be listed with a positive or a negative number. The negative number denotes how much someone with the taboo defiance trait will instead seek out sex that defies this taboo. This trait tends to create numbers from -5 to -40, in order to get a result greater than -40 that particular form of taboo sex would have to be that person's fetish.
-*'''Incest:''' (+60/-20)
-Sex with someone closely related by blood, 1st cousin/blood related aunt or uncle or closer.
-*'''Sex with infant or toddler''' (+100/+20)
-This is so repugnant to most people that taboo defiance only lowers the aversion to it.
-*'''Child sex, 10 and under''' (+80/-0)
-Sex with a pre-pubescent child.
-*'''Sex AS a child under 10''' (+40/-10)
-Children under 10 are discouraged from sex, and they are normally obedient. Most of that may have to do with them not having much of a concept of or interest in sex to start with.
-*'''Under-age sex, teen 12-15''' (+80/-0)
-Sex with a younger teen. Used to be more acceptable in culture, but now it is viewed as every bit as bad as sex with a pre-pubescent child.
-*'''Sex AS a young teen age 12-15''' (+20/-40)
-Children are always discouraged from having sex young, but with all these new things they are learning about their bodies sometimes it doesn't take completely. This is also a defiant age, so a taboo defiant child will view sex as the ultimate extreme taboo to break.
-*'''Jail-bait''' (+50/-40)
-Sex with a 16-18 year old. This is actually legal in 80% of the western world, but even the places where it is legal tend to frown on this on a societal level.
-*'''Sex AS and older teen''' (+10/-40)
-At this age, teens are encouraged to have safe sex rather than not to have sex at all. What avoidance there is has more to do with encouragement to focus on academics and planning their future. Defiant teens will still see sex as THE taboo to break.
-*'''Age difference''' (+40/-30)
-The rule is half the older partner's age +7. If the younger partner falls below that age, it is looked down upon even if it is legal. (functions both directions, regardless of age of younger partner.)
-*'''Race mixing''' (+20/-20)
-This is not so much a taboo, more a result of the biological drive to mate within your social group. Of course, this does create something of an implicitly learned taboo by virtue of the fact it is something people don't do often, even if there is no social enforcement.
-*'''Race mixing with out group''' (+40/-40)
-Sex with a member of an ethnicity that is currently seen as an active threat to the well-being of the in-group society.
-*'''Convicted Criminal''' (+40/-40)
-Sex with someone who has committed a crime.
-*'''Bestiality with dog''' (+100/-40)
-Sex with a dog.
-*'''Bestiality with farm animal''' (+100/-30)
-Sex with animals found on farm.
-*'''Bestiality with other large animal''' (+100/-40)
-Sex with animals that aren't normally domesticated.
-*'''Bestiality with small animal''' (+100/-?)
-Sex involving an animal that is too small to copulate with.
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