Life Hacks/Consent minimums

Unless the individual is a sexual deviant who likes sex with people they don't know, these numbers are the minimum necessary for the individual in question to give 100% consent to a particular sex act or gesture of affection. If romance score with this character is within 10 points below the listed number, they will be made uncomfortable by it but still accept the act if they have a submissive score greater than or equal to the romantic score requirement. If it is greater than 10 points below, it will be considered a non-consensual act and lower trust scores as well as any other appropriate score according to result. (being appropriately submissive will prevent them from outwardly complaining or resisting.)

If compliance is achieved through a high submissive score and appropriate grooming, familial love can be substituted for romantic love scores. If submissive, familial love, and trust are all higher than the listed number, romantic love will raise to exactly 10 points below whatever sex act was just achieved through this combination of factors. If trust is not sufficient, familial love, submissiveness and appropriate grooming will still allow no ill effects from a sex act without a sufficient romance score, but the romance score will not raise as a result.

Note: The math can get a little complicated here. Know that these are not absolute rules, but more along the lines of guide-lines for writers to work with.

Benign sex acts

Activities that can easily be construed as non-sexual and dismissed both by the person the act is being performed on and also by any on-lookers. It only counts as a sex act because the person performing it gets aroused by it.

Note: Platonic or familial love scores can be substituted for romantic love scores in this category.

• Hold their hand:(5)
• Play with their hair:(8)
• Hugging (8)
• Pick them up off the ground:(10)
• Have them sit in your lap:(12)
• Hold possessively(12)
• Kiss cheeks or forehead:(15)
• Kiss their hand(20)

Dismissable sex acts

Activities that can just as easily be taken as sexual or non-sexual. If the person this act is being performed on takes it as non-sexual, it is regarded as 10 points lower than what is listed and familial love can be substituted for romantic love. (familal love by itself does not act as a substitute if they interpret the act as sexual)

• Be shirtless around them:(20)
• See them in their pajamas:(20)
• Oggle their clothed groin or breasts:(25)
• Press into breasts while hugging:(25)
• Convince a male to go shirtless around you:(25)
• Fondle fully clothed ass while hugging or other such activity:(30)
• Change cloths in presence of each other, not going naked (30)
• Make sexually charged or sexually related banter with each other(30)
• Wear only shirt and underwear around them(35)
• Convince a pre-pubescent girl to go shirtless around you(35)
• Fondle girl's ass under her skirt(40)
• "Secretly" dry-hump leg, hip, or ass (either direction)(40)
• Same gender change clothes while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual): (45/20)* (Note: Score differs depending on whether or not there is an existing romance score. 20 if romance score is zero, 45 if there is an existing romance score, 35 if there is a romance score but the act is regarded as non-sexual.)
• Opposite gender change cloths while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual):(50)* (40 after it is regarded as non-sexual.)

Mild sex acts

Acts that most would consider inappropriate unless you are in a romantic relationship, but most would not actually consider to be "sex." No other score may be substituted for romantic love except via the submission method.

• Kiss on lips (30)
• French Kiss (40)
• Grope breasts and/or genitals (50)
• Change cloths, including underwear, in the same space as each other (50)
• Use toilet with other present in bathroom(55)
• Reference or discuss moderate or hard-core sex with each other(55)
• Sexting (60)
• Crotch to crotch clothed dry-humping(60)

Moderate sex acts

Sex acts that most would consider sex, but would not get the "hard-core" label if filmed and put on a porn site.

Hard-core sex acts

Sex acts that involve inserting the penis into a vagina or anus

Sexual knowledge modifiers

A child who lacks in sexual knowledge will not have quite as strong a taboo against certain things, so depending on on the score it may be easier to get them to do certain things. The list above assumes complete sexual knowledge and all the natural social defenses that make a person resist sexual activity. Therefore, all the items listed here are things that subtract from sexual resistance.

Note: This is where the math might get really complicated. % reduction effects come into the game here. Please do not get too bogged down with it all. Again, these are meant as guide-lines, and it really matters more for writers than for readers. Even for a writer though, the recommendation would be to give these a quick once-over and then approximate the scores while you are writing. Being off by a few points is acceptable.

On the note of complicated percentages, a score cannot be reduced below 25% of its standard levels. The one exception to this rule is if body shame levels are below 25%, in witch case the body shame score becomes the new minimum percentage.

Sense of body shame

A child usually begins to learn body shame at around 18 months, but it must be re-enforced by the parents and peer group to take full effect. The process of learning body shame is gradual, and it is usually age 6-8 that it has really sunk in and reached 100%.

Body shame is the concept that tells a person that it is wrong to show their naked privates to other people, and also that it is wrong to have their privates touched by another person or to touch another person's privates. Usually at this age they do not have a very strong interest in touching another person's privates unless invited to do so.

Having a body shame level of less than 100% reduces all scores except for benign sex acts by the difference between 100 and their current body shame % level.

There are some things that can cap potential body shame levels at a level below 100% even after age 8. These are as follows. (Note: There are exceptions, but this is the standard that can be predicted.)

• No strong social reinforcement: Cap = 20%

• Raised as a Naturist(Nudist): Cap = 80% sexual touching, 5% nudity and exposure

• Someone engaged in grooming behaviors with them before age 6: Cap = 100% - 20% per level of grooming completed.

• Casually engages in skimpy dressing or exhibitionist behaviors: Cap = 60%

• Mother dresses immodestly or behaves is a sexually permiscuous manner: Cap = 80%

• Age 5: Cap = 80%

• Age 4: Cap = 60%

• Age 3: Cap = 40%

• Age 2: Cap = 20%

• Age 18 months: Cap = 5%

Knowledge of sexual mechanics

How well a child or teen knows about the basic mechanics of sex. All negative values here apply to the mild, moderate, and hard-core sex act categories only.

• Does not know how babies are made: (-20)

Will perform sexual acts without concern for the consequences if they do not know what the consequences are.

• Does not know what the opposite gender's genitals look like: (-10)

Will be less guarded about showing their genitals to the opposite gender if they thing the other gender looks the same as them.

• Has an incorrect concept of how to prevent pregnancy: (-5)

Incorrectly thinks they won't get pregnant or get a girl pregnant, a little less reserved about sex as a result.

Internalization of social-sexual values

Regardless of how well a child may know or not know the mechanics of sex and no matter how much they have been taught to be modest, they have to actually internalize it and take it on as their own values in order for it to really take effect.

All negative values in this category count both as a negative to body shame and to absolute values as well. Lack of internalization of values though does not have the ability to reduce body shame below 25%. These negatives apply to every category except benign sex acts.

NOTE: These value reductions only apply to people they are familiar with. You have a friendliness level of 50% or greater with the child in question in order for them to express their sexual curiosity with you. (20% for the last two categories to apply.)

• Starting puberty: (-20)

The hormones of puberty lower sexual inhibitions, this effect is more pronounced before the brain learns how to adapt to this effect -20 values from the age at witch puberty starts until age 14.

• Mid puberty: (-10)

The brain has started to develop a resistance to sex hormones as the brain develops to a level it can better internalize society's views on sex. -10 values from ages 15 to 17.

• Curious about genitals: (-20)

Between ages 7 and 12, some kids who have learned about body shame will actively reject it due to curiosity. They do realize that adults do not like this kind of activity, so they will hide it. -20 values when out of the eyes of an adult and do not expect an adult or authority figure to interrupt them.

• Curious about babies: (-20)

Has just learned how babies are made within the past 2 years, but doesn't quite get it. They know sex will make a baby, but they do not fully grasp the reality of what that means or how much responsibility is involved. It actually sounds kind of fun to them. -20 values for anyone below age 14 in this mental state about baby making.

• Curious about the act of sex: (-40)

Has just learned either complete or incomplete information about the physical act of sex, and is very curious about how the physical act feels but does not fully comprehend the consequences involved in making a baby (If they even know sex results in a baby.) -40 values to anyone under age 12 in this mental state about sex.

• Groomed (-5 X # of levels of grooming)

Children under age 12 associate sexual acts less with love and romance and more with their exploration and curiosity. As such, it is easier to break down their defenses simply by performing lower grade sex acts with them before moving on to the higher ones. -5 values per level of grooming for a child who has been groomed by someone, double negative effects if that someone was you.

• Molested (-50%)

A child who has been previously sexually molested has less of a sense of boundaries, and as such is easier to take advantage of. -50% on all values, including benign sex acts, on any child 16 or under who has non-consensually had a mild sex act or higher performed on them at least one month ago.