Life Hacks/Consent minimums

Unless the individual is a sexual deviant who likes sex with people they don't know, these numbers are the minimum necessary for the individual in question to give 100% consent to a particular sex act or gesture of affection. As noted before, sex and romance are not associated in a child's mind. The numbers given here are the applicable value, not the romance value.

Determining the applicable value

There is a 3 tier priority system as to what attribute is used to determine whether or not a sex act can be performed with an individual without them resisting. They are as follows.

Submissiveness and grooming

The effects of submissiveness are limited to whether or not the partner is groomed to accept the sex act. If the proper grooming procedure is followed, each grooming level being unlocked in order (useless if it is done out of order,) the partner's submissive value will be used to determine whether or not they will permit the sex act.

Note: Having a sex partner submit to a sex act is not the same as them giving consent. Submission and consent look more or less the same from the outside, but inside someone who submitted but did not consent will very much dislike that they are having this sex act performed on them. This does not necessarily mean a negative impact will result, but it is possible depending on the factors involved.

Fear can substitute for submission if fear meets the required level but submissiveness does not. In this case, the grooming method is not required but the partner that is made to submit through fear never considers it a consensual act regardless of whether or not any other score fits the requirements. This will always lower friendliness/raise enemy values, and may have other negative consequences. (being made to submit through fear will raise submissiveness levels.)

Partner is 14 or younger

Actually, it is somewhere between 13 and 16 that these methods change over, but the hard mid-line will be called at 14 for the sake of simplicity. A child does not connect sex an romance. To a child, romance means fairy tale wedding, being happy together, calling each other by affectionate names, and having children. Having children is not connected to sex for them either, but if they are aware that is how babies are made then a romance level of 10 is all that is needed to convince them to have vaginal intercourse so long as the other required scores are met.

Children under 14 use trust and friendship as their determining scores for whether or not they will permit a sex act, and trust is the more dominant of these two factors. Friendship must be at least 1/2 the value in question, and trust must meet or exceed the value.

Note: If familial love meets or exceeds the value for the sex act, the required trust value is reduced by the difference. Familial love does not substitute for trust, but it does make it significantly easier.

Partner is 15 or older

This is the standard method of acquiring consent. This method applies if none of the above 2 factors are present.

For someone who is 15 or older, there are some blurred lines between love and lust. The only real effective difference between the two for whether or not they will submit to a sex act though is how they will behave in the middle of the sex act. The romantic love score is the only factor measured in determining whether or not consent is achieved, and there is a little bit of wiggle room unlike with the above two categories. The partner will not be comfortable with a sex act unless they meet the required score, but if romance is being used as the measure then it can be as much as 10 points below and they will still consent.

Benign sex acts

Activities that can easily be construed as non-sexual and dismissed both by the person the act is being performed on and also by any on-lookers. It only counts as a sex act because the person performing it gets aroused by it.

Note: Platonic or familial love scores can be substituted for romantic love scores in this category.

• Hold their hand:(5)
• Play with their hair:(8)
• Hugging (8)
• Pick them up off the ground:(10)
• Have them sit in your lap:(12)
• Hold possessively(12)
• Kiss cheeks or forehead:(15)
• Kiss their hand(20)

Dismissable sex acts

Activities that can just as easily be taken as sexual or non-sexual. If the person this act is being performed on takes it as non-sexual, it is regarded as 10 points lower than what is listed and familial love can be substituted for romantic love. (familal love by itself does not act as a substitute if they interpret the act as sexual)

• Be shirtless around them:(20)
• See them in their pajamas:(20)
• Oggle their clothed groin or breasts:(25)
• Press into breasts while hugging:(25)
• Convince a male to go shirtless around you:(25)
• Fondle fully clothed ass while hugging or other such activity:(30)
• Change cloths in presence of each other, not going naked (30)
• Make sexually charged or sexually related banter with each other(30)
• Wear only shirt and underwear around them(35)
• Convince a pre-pubescent girl to go shirtless around you(35)
• Fondle girl's ass under her skirt(40)
• "Secretly" dry-hump leg, hip, or ass (either direction)(40)
• Same gender change clothes while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual): (45/20)* (Note: Score differs depending on whether or not there is an existing romance score. 20 if romance score is zero, 45 if there is an existing romance score, 35 if there is a romance score but the act is regarded as non-sexual.)
• Opposite gender change cloths while exposing bare genitals in presence of each other (must be regarded as non-sexual):(50)* (40 after it is regarded as non-sexual.)

Mild sex acts

Acts that most would consider inappropriate unless you are in a romantic relationship, but most would not actually consider to be "sex." No other score may be substituted for romantic love except via the submission method.

• Kiss on lips (30) (Note: Can be regarded as non-sexual in some families and have platonic love points substitute if raised in this way.)
• French Kiss (40)
• Grope breasts and/or genitals (50)
• Change cloths, including underwear, in the same space as each other (50)
• Use toilet with other present in bathroom(55)
• Reference or discuss moderate or hard-core sex with each other(55)
• Sexting (60)
• Crotch to crotch clothed dry-humping(60)

Moderate sex acts

Sex acts that most would consider sex, but would not get the "hard-core" label if filmed and put on a porn site.

Hard-core sex acts

Sex acts that involve inserting the penis into a vagina or anus

Sexual knowledge modifiers

A child who lacks in sexual knowledge will not have quite as strong a taboo against certain things, so depending on on the score it may be easier to get them to do certain things. The list above assumes complete sexual knowledge and all the natural social defenses that make a person resist sexual activity. Therefore, all the items listed here are things that subtract from sexual resistance.

Note: This is where the math might get really complicated. % reduction effects come into the game here. Please do not get too bogged down with it all. Again, these are meant as guide-lines, and it really matters more for writers than for readers. Even for a writer though, the recommendation would be to give these a quick once-over and then approximate the scores while you are writing. Being off by a few points is acceptable.

On the note of complicated percentages, a score cannot be reduced below 25% of its standard levels. The one exception to this rule is if body shame levels are below 25%, in witch case the body shame score becomes the new minimum percentage.

Sense of body shame

A child usually begins to learn body shame at around 18 months, but it must be re-enforced by the parents and peer group to take full effect. The process of learning body shame is gradual, and it is usually age 6-8 that it has really sunk in and reached 100%.

Body shame is the concept that tells a person that it is wrong to show their naked privates to other people, and also that it is wrong to have their privates touched by another person or to touch another person's privates. Usually at this age they do not have a very strong interest in touching another person's privates unless invited to do so.

Having a body shame level of less than 100% reduces all scores except for benign sex acts by the difference between 100 and their current body shame % level.

There are some things that can cap potential body shame levels at a level below 100% even after age 8. These are as follows. (Note: There are exceptions, but this is the standard that can be predicted.)

• No strong social reinforcement: Cap = 20%

• Raised as a Naturist(Nudist): Cap = 80% sexual touching, 5% nudity and exposure

• Someone engaged in grooming behaviors with them before age 6: Cap = 100% - 20% per level of grooming completed.

• Casually engages in skimpy dressing or exhibitionist behaviors: Cap = 60%

• Mother dresses immodestly or behaves is a sexually permiscuous manner: Cap = 80%

• Age 5: Cap = 80%

• Age 4: Cap = 60%

• Age 3: Cap = 40%

• Age 2: Cap = 20%

• Age 18 months: Cap = 5%

Knowledge of sexual mechanics

How well a child or teen knows about the basic mechanics of sex. All negative values here apply to the moderate and hard-core sex act categories only.

• Does not know how babies are made: (-20)

Will perform sexual acts without concern for the consequences if they do not know what the consequences are.

• Does not know what the opposite gender's genitals look like: (-10)

Will be less guarded about showing their genitals to or have their genitals touched by the opposite gender if they think the other gender looks the same as them.

• Has an incorrect concept of how to prevent pregnancy: (-5)

Incorrectly thinks they won't get pregnant or get a girl pregnant, a little less reserved about sex as a result.

Internalization of social-sexual values

Regardless of how well a child may know or not know the mechanics of sex and no matter how much they have been taught to be modest, they have to actually internalize it and take it on as their own values in order for it to really take effect. Otherwise, they only follow these rules if there is an enforcer around.

These negative values only apply for children under 14 (except for the mid-puberty trait,) and only if they think they can avoid detection by an authority figure they feel will have a negative reaction to them doing this.

• Starting puberty: (-20)

The hormones of puberty lower sexual inhibitions, this effect is more pronounced before the brain learns how to adapt to this effect -20 values from the age at witch puberty starts until age 14.

• Mid puberty: (-10)

The brain has started to develop a resistance to sex hormones as the brain develops to a level it can better internalize society's views on sex. -10 values from ages 15 to 17.

• Curious about genitals: (-20)

Between ages 7 and 12, some kids who have learned about body shame will actively reject it due to curiosity. They do realize that adults do not like this kind of activity, so they will hide it. -20 values when out of the eyes of an adult and do not expect an adult or authority figure to interrupt them.

• Curious about babies: (-20)

Has just learned how babies are made within the past 2 years, but doesn't quite get it. They know sex will make a baby, but they do not fully grasp the reality of what that means or how much responsibility is involved. It actually sounds kind of fun to them. -20 values for anyone below age 14 in this mental state about baby making.

• Curious about the act of sex: (-40)

Has just learned either complete or incomplete information about the physical act of sex, and is very curious about how the physical act feels but does not fully comprehend the consequences involved in making a baby (If they even know sex results in a baby.) -40 values to anyone under age 12 in this mental state about sex.

• Groomed (-5 X # of levels of grooming)

Children under age 12 associate sexual acts less with love and romance and more with their exploration and curiosity. As such, it is easier to break down their defenses simply by performing lower grade sex acts with them before moving on to the higher ones. -5 values per level of grooming for a child who has been groomed by someone, double negative effects if that someone was you.

• Molested (-50%)

A child who has been previously sexually molested has less of a sense of boundaries, and as such is easier to take advantage of. -50% on all values, including benign sex acts, on any child 16 or under who has non-consensually had a mild sex act or higher performed on them at least one month ago.